57 ways to amp up your sex life
From sexperts, TOC staffers, burlesque performers, adult toy store owners and average readers, too.
Moan and groan. This one’s particularly good for women, but also works for the fellas: When approaching climax, make low-pitched noises from farther down in your throat (instead of high-pitched noises in your head). This can intensify orgasm. But maybe warn your partner if you are usually a high-pitched moaner. —SD
I TRIED IT!
This grunt work did seem to do the trick—but I can’t say for sure that the intensified orgasm came from any kind of physiological change, or if it was more the rough, animal-like groaning that set us both off. Either way, it upped the ante. —female TOC staffer
Call in tech support. Motion your partner over to the computer. Perhaps there’s an e-mail, a Time Out Chicago article, etc., that she just has to read. At first, she won’t notice the little camera hooked up to the computer—after all, you are probably just transferring last week’s vacation photos to the computer. As she bends over to read your red herring, caress her thigh—a signal that hey, perhaps you’d like to be intimate. As you’re getting busy and you’re about to penetrate her from behind, suggest that she close the browser window. With your camera in hand, you can show her what sex looks like from your point of view, as you stream the video images from your camera to the computer screen she’s watching. It’s hot, visually stimulating and a complete surprise. Bonus: When you stream the live images to your computer, there’s no movie made, no nothing—no digital copy, as if it never happened. It’s the most disposable piece of amateur porn imaginable. —male reader, Oak Park
Concoct a love potion. My man is Greek and he makes a great oil from olive oil mixed with lavender oil that we use for a bit of clitoris and body stimulation while I dance for him and roll around naked in rose petals. The combined smell of the rose petals and lavender is euphoric and erotically stimulating as he glides the oil all over my body. —Angela Eve, burlesque performer, Eve’s Parlor Burlesque (myspace.com/evesparlor.com)
Share toys. This one’s for two women: Get some simultaneous orgasmic action by using a vibrator with a big round head (like the Hitachi Magic Wand, $49, or the Mystic Wand, $60, at Early to Bed) on both of your vulvas at the same time. One person can be on top or both people can be facing each other—any way you can get your vulvas touching. —SD
Lace up. Ladies, he wants you to wear lingerie because he thinks you’d be gorgeous in it, which of course you are. Forget a lump or bump that bothers you, forget feeling silly. Wear sexy intimates for you first—French lace bras and panties under your scrubs, a garter belt under your autumn pencil skirts with nice silky stockings, something unexpected. Pay no mind to a little lace popping out of your shirt—just wear it proudly and then drink in that amazed look he gives you when he discovers it. —Helena Barber, sales associate, g boutique