57 ways to amp up your sex life
From sexperts, TOC staffers, burlesque performers, adult toy store owners and average readers, too.
Swing your troubles away. Get a Love Swing ($179 at loveswing.com)! They are affordable and fun, and any problem you might have—back, knees, too tired—is poof! Gone! It’s the closest experience to zero-gravity space sex you will get. —Elisa Purls, burlesque performer and instructor (elisapurls.com)
Repurpose boring furniture. It was just your average, gray desk chair on wheels—until I sat straddling my boyfriend’s lap, one leg on each arm and dangling down off the back. The leverage I got from gripping the chair’s back, combined with the ability to kick my legs to increase my body’s rocking momentum on top of him, was spectacular. Plus, the position gave me the freedom to grind my clit against his pelvic bone while he enjoyed face-level access to my breasts. It was a sad day when “Happy Fun Chair” finally broke down and had to be wheeled out to the trash. Rest in peace, old friend. —female reader, Bucktown
Give chase. Chase after your lover, down the block, to the park, jump over bushes, climb trees…run all over the place and get that blood pumping. If you catch him/her, make out, wrestle or switch roles. You can even come up with rules and make a real game out of it. —EP
Get “Liberated.” If you’ve ever stacked pillows under your partner or tried other ways of raising her pelvis during oral sex, try a Liberator Wedge cushion (liberator.com; $185–$245, depending on size). This line of sex furniture covers just about every shape, size and proclivity you might dream up, but for fans of oral, the Wedge is a must-try. Placed underneath the receiver’s butt and lower back, it elevates the pelvis to a more face-friendly level. My partner swears she comes faster and harder this way. (Bonus: This same angle also provides awesome penetration potential and G-spot access during intercourse.) The Wedge won’t make you better at performing oral, but it will keep you from getting a crick in your neck while you hone your technique. —male reader, Berwyn
Go the quick and easy route. Quickies are a nice, low-tech, low-budget way to spice things up. And, if done right, you can take pride in your newly acquired multitasking skill. Dinner simmering on the stove top for another ten minutes? Prop her up on the counter and kneel down for a little appetizer. And fellas: If your lady has a walk-in closet and she’s standing in her cute little undies, looking for something to wear…well, do you really need me to spell this one out for you? —Red Hot Annie, Vaudezilla burlesque (vaudezilla.com)