Great interview on kink, open relationships and anal sex
Tristan Taormino is a great feminist, sex-positive educator who teaches about polyamory, BDSM, anal sex, and all kinds of other stuff. Here's an amazing interview with her over on the Suicide Girls blog. Snip from the interview:
Ddj: What are the high points and pitfalls of polyamory? Can someone go from polyamory to monogamy and vice-versa?
TT: Many of the people I interviewed for my book Opening Up began as monogamous and transitioned to non-monogamy at some point. You can absolutely shift from one to the other (either way) as long as you do it with self-awareness, intention, and communication. The pros of open relationships are honesty, freedom, and the opportunity to fulfill multiple desires and needs. The cons: more people equals more work. If you don’t like to talk about your own feelings or the feelings of other people, you probably should not be in an open relationship.
Ddj: Do you think all sex workers are polyamorous by nature or by default?
TT: Not at all. My book began as a 600+ page manuscript, and one of the chapters that had to be cut was devoted entirely to sex workers and non-monogamy. Some sex workers have one partner and consider themselves monogamous because they think of the other stuff they do as work. Others identify as non-monogamous, but what that means to each person is different.
Ddj: What are your top 5 tips for sustaining a poly relationship?
TT: Communication, responsibility, honesty, negotiation, and patience.