Summer Coleman, 33
Bisexual mother raises her daughter with an open mind.
Milwaukee and Ashland Avenues
What are you up to? I just picked up my daughter, Mina, from her father’s house.
You and her father are separated? Yes. I date women now. I’m bi and currently have a girlfriend. I’ve always known that I like both sexes. I was in love with him, that fell apart, and I decided to try something else. I went to a party, met her, we hit it off, and that’s who I like now. Love is love to me.
Do you think sexual preference is more a continuum than we like to believe? Yes. That whole men-are-made-for-women thing? We outnumber you guys by millions. In that scenario, all men would be polygamists with, like, eight wives! It’s not one-to-one like that. You love who you love. There’s not enough guys for us, so what are we supposed to do?
Were you glad to see civil unions legalized in Illinois? Yeah, I would marry a girl. Whatever gender I fall in love with most first gets my hand in marriage. I got options! [Laughs]
Does your daughter ever ask why Mom likes girls now? We’re very open. She’s ten now and understands that I loved her father and now I love somebody else. She’s Chinese, Japanese and black, so she’s very diverse, too. Mina’s a very free-spirited girl: She’s not a girly-girl, but she’s not a tomboy. We raised her with a mind of her own: Love what you love, do what you like to do.
But kids at school can be cruel. Right. When something doesn’t fit their mold. But we taught her there is no mold. You are Mina. Be Mina.